This week at my school is Anti-Bully week. I'm sure each school has a time that they discuss and re-enforce no bullying to the students. It's great to know our kids are learning the signs of bullying in school and what to do if they see a friend being bullied. Unfortunately, most of the time it's not a kid being bullied, it's an adult! Adults do bully each other and sometimes don't even know it! Adult bullying does exist...maybe not like the direct form that is seen by and explained to our children, but in subtle ways that can be displayed as disrespectful. I thought that I would share some information about anti-bullying from the adult point of view, as part of our mental wellness and health.
Women are most of the time the worst type of bullies to each other or in other words "catty!" I'm going to flip this around so that we understand as women to not intimidate or upset each other, but to encourage and uplift one another!
Here are some examples of ways women treat each other:
1. You may have that one infamous girlfriend that "always" has something negative to say about somebody else
2. She gives you a backhanded compliment...you'll know if you have to say "hummm what did she mean by that again?" What might at first sound like a compliment but could/should really be taken as an insult when considered in its entirety.
3. She throws shade by saying something non-directly about you in public that may cause an offense to you.
4. She gossips about other people to you! What's that saying???! Be careful what you say to her because if she's talking about someone else's business to you, then she might definitely tell someone else your business.
5. She is unsupportive or critical of everything you do. That's not a good friend!
6. In the work place, some women are threatened by your work performance, your beauty, how you dress, how you carry yourself, or how great you get along with others. It's called jealousy! She is everywhere!!!
7. She point blank pressures or tells you to do something you don't feel comfortable doing.
8. Laughing or criticizing another women's appearance, children, or lifestyle, belittling someone or making them feel less than.
9. Just being rude, cutting off someone when they speak or not genuinely listening.
With all this said, I love being a Mocha Mom and being constantly supported by a fabulous group of women!!! It's just a small reminder to treat others the way you would want to be treated!
In the words of Alicia Keys' new song: "We Are Here"
We are here...
We are here for all of us
We are here for all of us
That's why we are here, why we are here
We are here...
Check out her video and listen to the lyrics...
This post courtesy of Tiffany K.
