Wednesday, February 11, 2015

Wellness: Love Languages



Happy Wednesday Mochas! 

Valentines Day is a couple days away and we're all about spreading the love!! Don't be mistaken, Valentines Day is not just about couples. It can be whatever you choose it to be! I believe it's a reminder to GIVE and RECEIVE lots of love!! To yourself, your significant other, your children, your family, friends and coworkers! 

I'm learning that it's healthy to recognize my "love language." The way in which I express and accept expressions of love. This book is still on my list of reads, "The 5 Love Languages," by Gary D. Chapman. Some of you may have read it or already know of it. Challenge yourself this week to tune in to your love language and the love languages of the people around you. Love is a significant part of living well! 

Go to www.5lovelanguages.com and take the quiz! Here are my results. My primary love language was QUALITY TIME! 

Quality Time**
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, "I love you," like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there – with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby – makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. Quality Time also means sharing quality conversation and quality activities.

Acts of Service**
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an "Acts of Service" person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: "Let me do that for you." Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don't matter. Finding ways to serve speaks volumes to the recipient of these acts.

Words of Affirmation**
Actions don't always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, "I love you," are important – hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. Kind, encouraging, and positive words are truly life-giving.

Physical Touch**
This language isn't all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face – they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive. Physical touch fosters a sense of security and belonging in any relationship.

Receiving Gifts**
Don't mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous – so would the absence of everyday gestures. Gifts are visual representations of love and are treasured greatly.

Have a lovely week and Valentines Day weekend! Xoxo,

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